Healthy Eating Does Not = Dieting


The second a fat positive girl (like me) starts to try and eat healthy, they get slapped in the face with a [I thought you were fat positive?!]. Just because a fat girl eats healthy does NOT mean it's a diet. When thin people eat healthy it's no big deal to people, but the second a chubby bunnie orders a salad you start hearing it. I have been trying to switch my eating habits (I think I'm failing at the vegetarian thing as well right now, ugh) for myself and no one else. I feel like crap lately and I know it's what I have been eating, it's different for everyone! You know what happened?! I lost a handful of Instagram followers after the first juicing pic I took. When I started posting more pics, the follower numbers started dropping even more. I was shocked.

At first I was a little upset and hurt. Why? Because a lot of those people were friends, people I chatted back and forth with. People I thought supported the idea of "it's your body, do what you want". But now when I think about it, I could care less if people prejudged me based on what I ate. If I was posting a scale pic, then I could understand why people thought it could be diet related. But fruit or juice... really?!

Fat people can eat healthy and be fat. Gasp! 

The one thing I have learned in the past 7 months is this... 

It's ok... to be a different size., to have extra pounds, a double chin and fat thighs. Your tummy can jiggle while you brush your teeth, run with your dog or even dance in the mirror. You can eat healthy and not diet. You are aloud to love yourself and all of yourself. No one is happy 24/7, we all have our moments when we hate our bodies, but just remember those days will pass. 

** Just a note, I have not forgotten about the Body Riot zine! I have been a tad tight this month, os printing is still on hold until I have some extra loose funds. **

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  1. I'm surprised you're getting flack about this! And I'm sorry, too, that it's happening. What can you say to people who judge you for wanting to eat vegetables?! Jeeze Louise!

    Just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I'm not going to eat my (organic! gasp!) fruits and vegetables and take my vitamins and drink enough water and go for a walk in the park or dance around if I want to! Just because I'm fat doesn't mean that I have to *want* to be unhealthy and unable to move.

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  2. Hey, why are you failing on the vegetarian thing? I'm just curious, I've been a veggie for 16y now.
    If you're really set on it, it will work. It's probably hard to do it if you're not 100% into it, if your mind is not completely in it I can see it not working. If it's too hard to just go veggie over night, you should ease into it. Take one thing out every week, and then you'll be there.
    If your heart is really in it you won't fail.

    <3 Jenny

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    1. I completely agree! I have been doing really well, but didn't plan it out very well. Between payday and no food in the house that was really veggie friendly left me eating barely anything and I was feeling pretty sick and weak. My heart is in it, but maybe not as 100% as I thought it was for sure. I really truly thought I was ready for this big change, but it's hard. Thanks for commenting Jenny! :)

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  3. You shouldn't see it as a failure. It should come naturally to you, if you get what I mean. It will never work otherwise.
    There are loads of cheap things you could make, it'll be a long comment if I would ramble them out here.. if you want to hear some you can flickr mail me or something ;)
    And it's jenny as in icantdance.

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    1. Thanks so much! I'll be sending you a Flickr note tonight! Your right, it's not a failure! :D

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  4. It's news to me that being fat positive means that you have to eat unhealthy and promote as such. Some juice? GASP! The world is ending! As far as I'm concerned, being fat positive means you're body positive - all bodies are beautiful and powerful and the fact that people stopped following you because you want to feel healthier (for yourself) and be more conscious of your food (and what things were killed for it) is just childish on their part. Don't let them get you down. This is just another part of your journey.

    As far as saying you're failing at the vegetarian thing, don't let yourself think that way. There's no "failing", especially when you're just starting out, and if you think that way you won't be able to let yourself feel successful in your progress. Every day will be a challenge, especially going out to dinner at a restaurant or a get together, and if you slip at all, don't beat yourself up over it. I know I was heartbroken when I was veg because the pizza place I went to once a week disclosed to me that they used meat to flavor their sauce after I had been eating it for quite some time while being veg - that doesn't mean I failed, it just means it was a hurdle that I hadn't realized. Let yourself feel good about what you've accomplished so far and just go with the flow - you'll figure out what works for you and different foods that you really love eating.

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    1. Oh I know! People are just crazy. To them fruit = skinny and pizza = fat. UGH!

      Your also right, it's not failing, just a hurdle. It's true we all slip, just like when being body positive, we all have our bad days. I will get right back up and keep going. I think I will try to just keep the meat out for now and go from there. When I'm comfortable and ready to take out the dairy, I'll do that next, and keep moving forward. I actually cried while eating a string cheese. All I could see and hear is the cow that made the milk for it. Tomorrow is a new day! :)

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    2. Well, okay... If you're crying eating a string cheese, I would say it's safe to cut that out going forward. I know you have been saying that you're tight on cash and food until next payday, so I understand eating it until you're able to shop, but (as I'm sure you are doing) don't eat something that upsets you once you're able to go shopping. There are tons of cheap veg/vegan food options for those on a budget.

      I would feel the same way when I'd eat jello (darn gelatin is in everything!) and realized that it was better for me mentally to cut out anything and everything with gelatin. But if I accidentally ate it, I accepted it happened, apologized to the poor animals, thanked them for their lives, and I'd be a little more diligent about looking at packaging in the future. Find what works for you in those instances - I found that thanking them for their lives and the energy that it had given me worked for me, but it could be completely different for you.

      The food options you're going for now seem to be 100% about your conscious decision to avoid abusing animals. If someone can't respect that and realize that you're not trying to tell them to do so, but simply documenting your journey, then they clearly haven't been paying attention.

      Tomorrow is another beautiful day! Just keep moving forward and enjoy what comes :)

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    3. Yes, I was just trying to document it. I've been looking for new blogs with just that, to see peoples struggles and how they handle it. I haven't found many new veggie blogs, just some old ones that started out new. I like how you think! Today is pay day to! I was just one day shy of stocking up and it was THAT bad lol!

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  5. I'm a big girl and that doesn't stop me from eating healthy MOST of the time. Sure a few non-healthy things creep in because I like them. That's kind of silly that to be fat positive you're expected to fill your body with things that will ultimately hurt you if consumed in excess. Plus, who wants to feel sluggish and yucky because of your food choices? I'd rather eat the healthy stuff and feel good inside and out.

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    1. Totally know what you mean! People can make any choice they wish, I just know junk food makes me feel physically bad, some maybe not. I'm 100% guilty for eating junk a LOT lol!

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  6. I'm with you on this! I like eating fresh, vegan, etc food because it makes me feel good and it tastes good and sometimes I eat junk too and either way I am not trying to eat a certain way to change my weight. Anytime I share what I eat I get flack somewhere for it so I tend to stay away from the topic these days. Don't let these silly people discourage you!

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    1. Yes! i'm all for eating how ever you want, it's your body. If I want pizza, I'll eat pizza. I will love eating it but I feel like crap, not mentally like "oh I shouldn't have eaten that" more like "crap, my stomach is going to kill me". I don't touch base a ton about foods until recently and I don't know if will do more unless it's baking lol! I love baking! People will be people and sometimes they SUCK! lol!

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  7. I totally get your frustration. People have the same reaction when I tell them I run and am a vegetarian. No....running does not mean I'm trying to be skinny, it just means I like to run.

    Don't let folks discourage you or get you down. Do wants best for you and eat whatever you want. :)

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  8. i'm at a loss for words, jess. healthy does not equal skinny, and healthy eating does not equal dieting. and you obviously know this. sorry for the hate you're feeling; you don't deserve it.

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  9. I'm a new follower and I just think you're amazing. I went through a similar thing when I went through a blood pressure scare a few years back. I was constantly reading sodium levels on everything. Between that and meds I lost like 50 lbs. I worked in a heavily female (read non fat friendly work place) I was constantly getting "way to go" remarks. I would patiently explain the weight loss was for health reasons only and get stares like I had three heads. Between meds and only focusing on sodium reduction I began to feel terrible...this was the start, however. I started learning about food and cooking. And applied eating healthy. I put weight back on but am way healthier than I was 50lbs lighter. The moral of the story I suppose is people are gonna talk regardless of what you do. But know that you are taking care of you, which is way more important than how others feel you should live your life.

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  10. Brilliant post! I've just stumbled across your wonderful blog and I'm so happy I did! You're beautiful and I'm so happy you get that healthy does not equal skinny. I'm now your newest follower on bloglovin'. :) x

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